While i was a kid, i have seen elders always connected with each others.  In-spite of whatever the differences and fights ultimately it was just that spur of the moment.  The next day or in the next few days we are sure to see them talk or rejoice again.  I had lot of good moments with our neighbors.

My neighbor used to be like my own aunt. I have been pampered and at the same time scolded if I did anything wrong.  I had never thought that as an embarrassment or shame. Rather i was aware that i am watched and if i do anything wrong no one spare me. The fear of being watched, gossiped and pointed ensured that i don't venture into anything that is not right.  It enabled me to think of the consequences and act.  Actually, our neighbors had guarded us and vice-versa. there were competitions and comparisons. It had always lead to a right path of growth.


Today, once we get inside our house we shut the door. We don't want anyone intrude or watch us. In the name of privacy, we shut our eyes against things that happens around us.  We are not being benevolent to others.

We only hear and we do not listen. We just shake our hands, we are not supporting.  We are liked virtually, not in person. We empathize in FB/Whatssap, when its required to our near ones in reality we avoid and run away.  All want to vent our their thoughts in FB wall and whatssap status, reason is there is no one with whom anyone can have a heart to heart conversation. Everyone carry their burden. They neither want to share theirs with others nor do they want others to share with them.   

Those days, there were gossips and backbiting however, there were sharing. Each one shared and comforted each other.   When someone wanted to lean on, a shoulder was there. Today we feel we would get overloaded. 

The real meaning of relationship and friendship has evaded.  No one really connects with others. Friendships used to be channel to vent out your feelings a mode to retrospect.  However, today no one really connects, just getting acquainted. Everyone of us are in virtual reality and no one really thinks that while we share the feelings of others, it would help improve our emotional intelligence. 

All illegal activity that is happening today is because, there is no fear within individuals of any watchful eyes around us.  There is no introspection of how it would affect the society as we are not bothered about the consequence. All we have started to consider is "what is in it for me ? " rather than "whats in it for all of us?". 

Instead of thinking like its their problem, we should think collectively to help in some way solving others problem.  It could be through comforting, listening or doing whatever possible.
 Then the mindset of "ME" will subside "Us" will rise.